Why every sex theory is wrong
The paradigm shift changing the very ground sexual frameworks and practices are built on.
I look around and see so many well-meaning sexperts and sexpreneurs trying to solve the problems of sex without understanding the way the erotic psyche works at the root.
They want to eradicate rape culture and empower women.
Keep desire alive in long-term relationships.
Finally feel the thing they yearn to feel during sex.
Solve mismatched desire.
Create policies around porn an improved social media ‘community standards’.
Integrate sexual fantasy and relational longing into AI and sex tech.
Create safety. Heal trauma.
But they’re going about it in all the wrong ways. They are building solutions on a faulty foundation.
The reason that The deVinery Method is such a big fucking deal, is it is the paradigm shift we didn’t know we needed to be able to tackle all these things. It reveals the way the erotic mind works at the root, and how to be in a powerful and profound relationship with this inner force.
Why are all the current studies and approaches to eroticism slightly skewed and off balance? Almost but not quite nailing it?
Because, even though truly brilliant minds have been coming up with brilliant strategies to navigate sex, until now, we did not have a coherent, unifying theory of the erotic psyche and human desire.
This means intelligent people keep coming up with clever answers to the wrong questions.
It’s like mastering apple pie recipes and nutritional science without understanding how the kitchen itself needs to be maintained, or that apples came from trees, let alone how the physics of fire needs to be harnessed to cook.
Or building beautiful, intricate cities without realising the foundation is actually unstable and the ground is cracking beneath the buildings.
I’m aware that this is such meta thinking that most people will not immediately grasp the full significance of what I am doing here. That’s ok. I only need 6-12 linchpin people from different fields of expertise to train in-depth and license.
They’ll not only change the world, they’ll make billions doing it.
For real.
Yes, for real.
If you are the kind of forward-thinking innovator that wants to utterly revolutionise the way we approach human sexuality and desire in
sex education,
psychology,
AI, dating,
sex tech,
academia,
interactive storytelling and gaming,
psychedelic integration,
trauma therapy,
future-of-love think tanks,
ritual design and altered state research,
consciousness studies,
adult creator platforms,
relationship counselling,
religious deconstruction/spiritual renewal,
unlocking greater human potential,
community shaping and design,
language models and symbolic systems,
and more… then we should talk.
Because there is nothing human that is not shaped by desire. It is the motivating force behind everything we build, fear, long for, or destroy. Unlock how desire itself works, and we unlock everything.
We’ve had frameworks built from shame. From repression. From medical reductionism and psychological pathologising. From spiritual bypass. We’ve had models that attempt to move beyond all that but not quite hit the mark. It’s time for a framework built from the intelligence of desire itself.
The deVinery Method reveals the grammar of desire we have been waiting for.
Artemisia de Vine: Desire architect and Philosopher of Consciousness, Creator of The deVinery Method: a paradigm-shifting model of the erotic psyche.